PSYCHOTHERAPY | THE COUNSELLING SPOT | ONTARIO
ADDITIONAL INFORMATION
TRAUMA
Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. Forgive yourself for giving away your power. Forgive yourself for past behaviors. Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up while enduring trauma. Forgive yourself for being who you needed to be.
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Many behaviors are adaptive, if they are no longer serving you a positive purpose - we can explore new ways to adapt together.
THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS
We all experience thoughts, some are useful and some are not. We do have the power to choose how we react - with a little practice. It is helpful to RESPOND to thoughts and to not REACT to them. A helpful way to consider your thoughts is to be curious about why you are having it, taking the position of seeing yourself in the third person, and working on not being judgmental of yourself - because there are already plenty of people who will do that for you.
STRESS AND ANXIETY
Often times our bodies give us signals when we are experiencing emotions at a low level. Have you ever noticed you give a big sigh when you feel frustrated? clench your fists while you recall an event that makes you feel angry, feel your face flush when you're about to give a speech? These responses are your body's way of letting you know you are leaving the zone where you feel optimal and are experiencing a new feeling - and it is time to employ a strategy to help adjust your nervous system.
FAMILY PLANNINGÂ - LOSSÂ - MICARRIAGE'S
Baby Bumps - things do not always go as planned. You may have experienced miscarriage(s), loss, family planning challenges, not feeling connected to your partner through any of those items, adjusting to life as a parent, or post partum depression. Let's talk about it, honestly and openly, you are not alone. Additionally, you have full permission to speak about the things that may make other people in your life feel uncomfortable.
MINDFULNESS - WHAT IS IT?
MINDFUL TIPS
It is very difficult to remain in the past, present and future at the same time. Practicing being mindful means you are staying right where you are at - in the present moment. When we live in the present moment we are able to focus on what is happening in the here and now and not be hijacked to thoughts and feelings that cause distress. Working on being connected, and present in your own experience takes time. I am able to offer you several different strategies to help get you back into your present moment. Your thoughts are not always facts - they are just thoughts.
ACCEPTANCE OF THOUGHTS
Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now without wishing it were different: enjoying the present without holding on when it changes (because it will,) being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way (because it won't.)
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Sit with thoughts that are unwanted -
even though you want to run, even though it is difficult, even though you are not quite sure of the way through it, healing happens by feeling.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN OVERWHELMED BY EMOTIONS?
A goal in working together would be to help you safely feel the feeling without becoming the emotion.
witness it.
allow it.
release it.
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No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future. Why not make the conscious effort to live in the present?